This question was asked a while ago, we just kind of didn't remember to answer it, so sorry to the person who asked it. The question was,
"Hi girlies! I love this website, and I have some thing to share. My friend is alway antagonizing me, and it’s SOO annoying. It’s like she doesn’t even care abt my feelings, but I always care about hers. She thinks she is entitled to everything, and always turns my friends against me when I don’t have the same opinion as her. What do I do?"
Well I think you should either tell her how you feel, or if you aren't comfortable with doing that, show her how it feels to be how you are feeling. Stop caring so much about her feelings when she doesn't care at all about yours. That's just my opinion. Others can give theirs too. Thanks for asking your question!
Great advice!
I would like to add, if having "the chat" with your friend doesn't bring about positive change in your friendship/s you may want to reevaluate the entire group. Each person in the group is an individual and capable of thinking for themselves. If your friends turn against you because of your opinion or the opinion someone has about your opinion then maybe it's time for some new friends
Remember,
*your opinion always matters even if everyone doesn't agree. Agree to disagree no one needs to walk around feeling bad
*friends may challenge but always bring the best out if us:)
💜
I don't want to say I know how that person feels, but I have multiple friends who are like this. With me, I created a way that whenever I get into an argument with them one of us would say our "funny word" to get out of it. This might create a habit of stopping emotional fights.
If it's more like they are controlling you, then I also have a solution. You should try doing what they are doing to you. Like they tell you to do something they are doing instead of picking the other side, then you might say something like, "Oh! Well I want to go on this side so I think you should come on this side." If this creates a bigger fight, then DON'T do it! If it does then you should probably answer with something like "Oh, I would love to, but I'd personally rather choose this side. Thanks, though!" If you feel like it's not appropriate to be as nice and you want to be a savage (lol), then say it more like, "I think I'm going to choose this side, but you can go wherever you want." Hopefully this helps!
If they are just genuinely mean to you, you should tell them right when they do it. I wouldn't do it later because you don't want to make a big deal out of it. So let's say they say, "Oof you suck at math (or whatever)..." you could say to them back, "Hey, that was mean...could you not say that please? I might...but it's still mean." then you can giggle a little. Make sure they agree, or else you're going to have to warn them again in a more serious way. I know that this is like annoying because you get reminded this a lot, but remember to tell a grownup you trust. Your parent(s)/guardian(s) is good. Maybe even a sibling. I told my mom about it, and she understands now when I say that I don't want to hang out with that person.
Please please PLEASE let me know if you have any problems with friends because I with probably be able to help. Thank you!!!
-eve ☻